52 For from henceforth there shall be five in one house divided, three against two, and two against three.
53 The father shall be divided against the son, and the son against the father; the mother against the daughter, and the daughter against the mother; the mother in law against her daughter in law, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.
Some of us are living this TODAY, it is not for the future. It is here and now.
One can lose their family or members of their family from becoming a Christian. Let's just say that many relatives do not like it when you become a Christian. This can grow worse as the years pass by too. Not many realize that. In the fresh days of being born again, you think "well I can preach the gospel and convict hearts and minds", well it doesn't always work that way. Many will still refuse God and will grow more belligerent in doing so. As you grow in the Lord, your distance from them grows further and further. Yes we can have our hearts break and think maybe it is something we have done wrong, but people will make their own choices when it comes right down to it.
Sometimes at my last IFB I used to be impressed that sometimes there were whole families attending together, it didn't mean all parties were saved of course, but found it interesting since my experience was so different in life. I often have wondered what it would have been like being raised in a born again Christian family that was truly born again and not just by appearances.
While there are unbelievers who will be respectful and tolerant even within a family system, many will not be and see your Christianity immediately marking you as an enemy. Trust me you do not have to get your Bible out and bang it on the table or witness over and over to have this happen. You can witness once or twice, remain polite but spiritual realities will make themselves known. Some relatives will even forbid you to talk about religion or politics or anything related to the spiritual world in their house, others will herd their kids away from you so, over the years you notice, you are never left alone with their children or only allowed to see them as minimally as possible and even that with time that will ebb away. This can hurt especially for the childless or infertile lets say in the cases of nieces or nephews. If these relatives belong to the Catholic, Mormon or other false church or cult, shunning will happen with many of these parties. They will hold family gatherings and not tell you nor invite you. They will openly mock your religion or disdain you. In some countries, if one leaves a false religion, and if there is religious persecution, a wicked family sometimes will hand their Christian believer relative over to the authorities. We do not face this here yet in America, though the spiritually blind will defend many injustices, but it will be coming.
This theme is in the bible twice, usually when something is repeated in the bible, it is repeated and stressed as important.
35 For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.
36 And a man's foes shall be they of his own household.
God may instruct you to part ways with wicked relatives or ones who overtly reject the gospel over and over and are openly hostile to it. No, I am not telling everyone here to part from every family member who is a non-Christian, and obviously there are commitments God will lead one in such as the care for children or an elderly parent, but these situations will come up. One thing the world will tell you that family ties and loyalty come first but loyalty to God is to come first. I have met people who have refused to leave false churches because it would upset various relatives even after being given some truth. There are others who do what their families tell them and do not want to "rock the boat".
The world will tell you to feel guilt in this desire to walk away but follow what God directs here. He will tell you who is in reprobation or those who still have a chance for salvation. I believe the edicts about departing from evil-doers applies to those you share DNA with as well. This can be a hard decision as a Christian to depart from family members but it happens more often then you think. Some Christian believers may be walking from abusive families, ones living unholy lives or ones involved in the occult. If you are a Christian and are open in your faith, if you are related to those who fully reject God and have embraced evil, you will anger them anyhow. You will be a challenge to the status quo, and you will upset them.
Even if you reach out in kindness, from the other direction, they will force you to depart or cut you off directed in their spiritual blindness. Christian believers will often be cut out of the will for their non-conformity or even forced to walk from inheritances, or lose a position in the family business from their differing faith in Jesus Christ and walk with God. Jesus addresses this in a way here too.
6 God setteth the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land.
There are unbelievers who will use Jesus's edicts about family division as being a "negative". I saw this years ago in so called "free-thought" books, they would write that Jesus's teaching of division with family members was wrong and would point out Jesus never married or had children. Of course they do not understand what these statements spiritually mean. They used to quote this bible verses especially: