Saturday, March 29, 2014

Purity Balls: "Your Father is your boyfriend."



This is an outgrowth of the Patriarchy movement, I've brought this issue up before, but it seems these purity balls are growing in popularity. A young girl should be following God's will, not following the edicts of her father in pledging her purity to him which crosses so many false boundaries it's not funny. The psychologists may refer to it as "covert incest" but something is clearly wrong with those making legalistic ceremonies out of virginity for girls. What if a girl's father is not a Christian or is even abusive or horrors beyond horrors sexually abusive? This reminds me of Catholicism where they have the novices wanting to be nuns dress in white wedding gowns and have them "marry" "jesus" with their heads shaved making vows of virginity [chastity] and often poverty.

'You are married to the Lord and your daddy is your boyfriend': 


"Fathers taking part are expected to sign a ‘purity covenant’ in which they, as ‘High Priest of their home and family’ pledge ‘before God to cover my daughter as her authority and protection in the area of purity’The daughters silently commit to live pure lives before God through the symbol of laying down a white rose at the cross, before engaging in a wedding-type dance with their father."

False theology predominates here as well as legalism. A girl should stay pure to please the Lord not to please her human father.  

23 comments:

Anonymous said...

I agree this is very unhealthy and abusive for young girls and the families they live in, even if they are Christian families. (I would question their Christianity being caught up in such cult-like practices) And if the family is unsaved this will cause lust between a dad and his daughter because of how they are wording this - your dad is your boyfriend. I believe our culture has done everything they can to make young girls feel like sex slaves (music and music videos, clothing styles etc.) and if a young girl is made to pledge her virginity to her dad's care, she will get further confused about her right to her own body. (Not her right to sleep around but her right that she has control over it, to not be someone else's property.) Young girls are already getting sucked into male dominant men types who only want them for sex and treat them like they are their property so if young girls feel they are a slave to their dad in this area they will then fall in love with and marry a male dominant type man who will also lord over her in this area as well as other life areas. You see murder stories on television of relationships where the woman is over-controlled by her jealous, dominating husband and she wants to break free. This practice of making your dad your boyfriend to stay pure is already perverted so how can anything good come from it? I think this teaching is harmful through and through and is just our cultures way (and the devils) to further make young girls feel like a sex slave to dominating male figures. My heart breaks for young girls today!

Blessings,
Lori

Anonymous said...

I have a neighbor who takes each of his two daughters on separate date nights and it always gives me the creeps when I hear that. I did take my daughters to eat or to do something special, just the two of us, but would never call it a date night. That is just too weird! - Don

Bible Believer said...

I believe the new world order wants women to feel like property, the left they are only worth as much as the degenerate sexual market place deems them [the feminists who used to protest women being objectified are long gone] and the right, they want them to be direct property of men--patriarchy movement-this stuff where "daddy" owns them and their "sexuality". Does this mean arranged marriage isn't too far off in apostate right wing Christiandom? Satan hates women and considers them less then human and it's showing in all this spreading evil. They want to turn women into sex slaves. Everything is about sex in this wicked world, so even here, they use the language of dating and mating, for girls and their fathers. I agree about it leading girls to marry male dominant types. Also if these girls are trained to obey "daddy" no matter what that definitely opens the door to abusive males to come and take advantage especially if the young girl has not developed her own integrity and boundaries and standing in the Lord.

Bible Believer said...

Don, yes the "date" night language concerns me too, and when they hold those daddy and daughter dances as well. I think it is wrong. A father can share time with daughters without labeling it with the language of dating.

Anonymous said...

Hmm, lets see if purity rings work:

1. Miley Cyrus
2. Jordin Sparks
3. Demi Lovato
4. Selena Gomez

These former Christians have since fallen away from the faith. It goes to show you that purity rings are a legalistic trap.

In Christ,
JL

Anonymous said...

You totally stole this post from Last Hiker's blog! Wow! Unorginal much?

Anonymous said...

Very inappropriate. In this society people want to" celebrate" everything. Including chastity. My daughters know that they should wait till marriage, not for their father, for themselves. And in obedience to the Word. These balls are just one more way to exalt people, and have nothing to do with spreading the gospel. If we are going to boast we should boast in Jesus Christ and not ourselves.

Anonymous said...

At first, when seeing the headline, I thought this was an article about west virginia. Just kidding.

But seriously, how hypocritical is this anyway? So only girls should remain virgins until marriage? What about boys? I guess boys can have sex with everybody?

Yes, being a virgin until marriage is what God wants. But it's weird to see this pledge to father's. Why only father's? Can a girl not also pledge this to a mother? What kind of weirdo thing is this?

Why only one promise? Why not promise to not cuss, or not drink, or not smoke? Let's promise the world. Promise to never sin.

Kind of reminds me of Islam for some reason.

Besides, do people not have any faith in their children? If you raised them right, why take a pledge?

Douglas Andrew Willinger said...

This makes me wonder about an early life experience regarding my lost First Love's father:

http://southmallblogger.blogspot.com/2012/06/jane-1971.html

Bible Believer said...

Anon this reminds me of Islam too and agree with other anon it is about exalting people! And yes, what about the boys, I noticed Last Hiker asks that question. good one.

Bible Believer said...

To the person who said, I stole this from last hikers, I haven't even been over there in some time. I went over today and saw this video over there. With these blogs there will be overlap, I see things I post about posted on all the time. I don't complain, get the word out. Did you see me complain about her blogging about the occult imagery of the Whosoevers a year after I did? NO. I WAS GLAD SHE DID.

Lillianna White said...

Great points!

Why not make the sons do a virginity pledge to their mothers, and have date nights with her? See how twisted this all is?
It just looks like an abusive aggressive male can 'pick up where daddy left off.' And women are totally being degraded in every way, not just privately, but for public display in the pop culture media. Women feel they need to look like the slut on the streetcorner to be worthy of any attention or anything. I refuse to look like any of those cookie cutter images they put out there. I really do what the bible says, dress modestly and don't put a lot of attention to outer beauty and adornment. Besides, the older you get, it's just an undignifying uphill battle. I stick to the natural look these days.

And yeah, the more these newsworthy items are pollinated, the more the public in general will blossom with informed news. The internet is a great tool for this, let's use it while we still can and share. Thanks to all who do!

(:

Anonymous said...

The anon that said you stole from Last Hiker's blog was kinda snarky. I'm not sure what is going on with this trend of snarky post lately; it's not Christ-like.

We should imitate Christ and be meek in our speech.

In Christ,

JL

Anonymous said...

I am glad to see the same topics covered on different blogs. That way it has a greater reach. You might also see another aspect to it on another blog. The more exposure the better!! Thank you, Bible Believer, for talking about this.
beb

Within His Word said...

Creepy as can be. I didn't watch the video, but in that first still frame from the top video, the girl doesn't even look like she's in puberty yet. They will keep pushing this on children younger and younger, to desensitize the frank sexual discussions with the youngest children, ironically right alongside the public schools that do the same thing.

As someone pointed out, where's the boys giving their "virginity" to their mothers?

I guess studying the Bible is just too boring, so we have to create 100,000,000 "parachurch ministries" to regulate every aspect of your existence.

Bible Believer said...

I noticed in these movements no one talks about the boys purity or that they should wait for marriage, it is almost implied that boys will not wait for marriage and the girls will all have to remain "pure" because the boys are not. Yes none of the boys are promising their virginity to their mothers. This is all about the degradation of women where their sexuality is the sum total. I agree about the very young girls, who shouldn't even be worried about issues like virginity yet, they should be innocent. It is implied here, that every young girl will not be able to help herself and will become promiscuous unless her father watches over here too. Everything has become about "looks" today, even in this world, you see how they are adorned and are to be like "cookie cutters", same for the Duggars where the girls all dress exactly alike. Thanks regarding the person who was snarky about me using material from another blog. [I actually found it elsewhere]

Lillianna White said...

I agree with that too, there is a new low of snarkiness that has crept in...
and yes, the more sharing of these things that goes on, the better.

I have noticed the double standard in everything about gender. No one ever talks about the need for the sons to remain virgins and not turn women into easy prey, just a blind eye, a wink by the other eye, and the remark 'boys will be boys...'. Besides, they are the ones who can get a girl pregnant and that can lead to an abortion. If you are the girl, even if you didn't stay a virgin, you have the control not to have an abortion. But if a son get's another girl pregnant, he doesn't. So your grandchild can be easily aborted if conceived by your son and his girlfriend, but not so easily if conceived by your daughter and her boyfriend. Just another issue in all of this...

Blessings!

Anonymous said...

I think that an anti-Christian person has discovered this website and is posting the mocking, insulting comments. Can people's comments be put through a filter of some sort to weed out those who are just posting mean things to ruin our conversations? If not, its probably best just to ignore them. Then they won't get their power-trip and will hopefully move on.

Lori

Bible Believer said...

I erased the last one, it was even more rude. You all would not want to see what is in the spam folder of this blog. This is why the need for moderation of posts. I don't mind honest people that disagree, but yeah that one proved quick they were just here to well..."SNARK".

Anonymous said...

I came out of an abusive church system where some of the married women literally stated that "jesus is my husband" and the unmarried said "jesus is my boyfriend." I will not capitalize our LORD Jesus Christ here as I believe this is another jesus they are speaking of and it reeks of evil. To lower ourselves to even think, let alone speak of our Savior and Redeemer in this way is very telling of our culture who treats the God of our Bibles as if He were one of us!

Purity balls, purity rings, purity conferences, purity shirts, etc., are all exterior works by which man has declared "his own purity" before other men, but does it cut to the heart? In most cases, no, it does not and in comparing this to the homeschool issue, I rest my case.

Homeschooling, purity balls, spending huge amounts of money in attending "conferences" (youth conferences, leadership conferences, worldview conferences, healing conferences, lying signs and wonders conferences, etc. etc. etc.) does not make one more holy from an inward heart perspective. One can "do" all of these man prescribed things/works and still not know Him, for Jesus Himself said "Depart from Me, for I never knew you." When man exalts himself over the things he has done in this world, boasts and brags over himself, all the while lusting after more, well then, we clearly know the god he is worshipping, for there a few Biblical characteristics lacking within what is called Christianity today.....do the words "humility", "meekness", and "repentance" mean anything to the western Christian anymore?

I grieve to say this; I have not seen these characteristics in the organized church system, but Praise our LORD, I have seen followers of Christ outside the 501c church who actually model these godly traits beautifully. This gives such hope that God, the Holy Spirit, is still continually working across this land in doing our Father's Will.

Man is so caught up in the externals here on earth, but our Father already knows the internals of every man, woman, and child of which none of us can hide. May we Glory in our LORD rather than ourselves this day.

Anonymous said...

"We should imitate Christ and be meek in our speech."

Jesus wasn't always meek with others.

Lillianna White said...

"Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Ephesians 4;2

"But when the Holy Spirit controls our lives he will produce this kind of fruit in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control; and here there is no conflict with Jewish laws." Gal. 5; 22-23

"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." Proverbs 15;1

Jesus was bold in the face of hypocrites, blind religious leaders, merchandisers, and wolves. He was gentle with sinners, calling them to repentance.

I totally agree, these people in churches nowadays! What a joke!
I can't find anyone outside of churches, but inside not either. They are all proud gossips without fruit.

Lillianna White said...

Oh, and you know what this reminds me of? Quinceaneras! It's a Mexican/Latino tradition in the Catholic chruch, when the girls turn 15 they pledge some vow of purity at church at a confirmation ceremony and they all wear white dresses, all the trimmings are rolled out. It looks like another inroad from Rome.