This is scary stuff. By the way, I have seen dozens of blogs like this, I decided to coment on this one.
"5 Reasons To Submit To Your Dad"
Here are some back ground articles on the SAHD daughter movement.
"More Disturbing Things about the Duggars" [Scroll down to the part about Daddy's Girls"]
"Two Sides of the Same Evil Coin: Radical Feminism Vs. The Patriarchy Movement"
The patriarchy movement is teaching that young ADULT women must stay under their father's authority until they marry. This means if they never marry, and are 40 years old and living at home, their father remains their "authority". Imagine being 35 years old and never married and having to ask your father permission to go to the store. That is that world. Like Radical Islam, a woman is mandated to always be under male authority, whether, it be a husband, or father.
Anyhow I saw this blog the other day...this lady who appears to be somewhere in her early 20s tells us to SUBMIT TO YOUR DAD. She states:
"As a single adult woman I have made the choice to be a stay-at-home daughter. I live with my family and flowing out of that I have chosen to submit to my parents; and more specifically my father’s authority. I have chosen to do this until the day I am given in marriage to my future husband, when I will willingly begin to submit to him."
I wrote on this blog before, it's like they want women to stay perpetual children. By the way this goes hand in hand with the Dominionism and one can see even in the SAHD writings, the odd use of terms like "vision", and phrases like "dominion of their spheres of influence in the home". Odd, how such a supposedly so traditional movement lays the new religious lingo on thick!
I hate to say it but if you never have the ability to live as an independent adult, how do you later take care of children and a husband? What if your husband dies? I find this movement extraordinarily foolish and based in false history even thinking of the practical matters of life. Women in the old days went to the market to sell eggs. She had to take care of the livestock and the farm when Pa was away from home for months on a railroad track construction job or looking for work. I also ask, what if one's father dies? Those who hit their middle aged years, know the numbers of those who have lost their fathers, outnumbers those who still have them. What kind of man would even want to marry a woman who essentially never grew up?
I often wonder about how much of this extreme stuff on the sociological front is a pendulum swing due to the bad economy and the breakdown of community. I hate to say it but every little home as a FORTRESS against the world, ISN'T GOING TO WORK. Is that what has become of American culture? Leave me out of it.
How many ultra securely employed Dominionist religious young men who will pass Daddy's screenings are there? At least they should be honest, and do what other cultures have done and make the switch to "arranged" marriages where parents arrange marriages between those of the same culture and/or religion. No I do not condone that, but think this one out, they are not allowed to date, they have no social means to meet this young man, they do not have sing-a-longs like the Amish, so as they see more and more young women home for life, this whole SAHD Quiverful culture will be forced into change. Look at the Duggar daughters, while I believe in chasity and waiting for marriage as the Bible tells us, they are akin to women living in convent. One commenter at this article--posted above, commented on the transition to early Greco-Roman culture aspects of life, I found that interesting. Women in Greco-Roman culture, were not allowed to have any part to play in the public sphere, they definitely were under full male control. Isn't Dominionism and this stuff, about returning to paterfamilias?
I see how she speaks of the world being "dangerous" and of "creepy men". The Duggar daughters all seemed afraid when a friendly stranger at the Dead Sea came over to say hello and had Jim Bob chase him away. What if that could have been a future husband? Dare I say that this bloggers attitude towards men is not a very positive one? That she has been taught to only fear? Young women should be raised to discern and be strong in themselves, where she would not need her father to know if she was being deceived by a false man with ill intentions.
I and my friends have spoken of how our more liberally feminist inclined families threw us out into the world to "sink or swim". Mine was Catholic but definitely held to all the new feminist lines. With the destruction of community, lives spent moving all over the place--in my case I was instructed to put the "career" first and told to move a thousand miles even if that is what it took, and moved to a enourmous metro city alone at one point to stay employed as young 20 something. I knew some of us thought something was very wrong with that side of things too. Friends have told me, they wish for lives of 50 years ago rather then what happened in our lifetimes. Today I know that many priorities are off. People should put family and community higher, with God of course first. But this as the answer? That is insanity. This is American Taliban stuff.
She speaks of having "financial responsiblity" taken off of her as well. That is scary too. Again parents die. What will she do on her own in the world? I think it is beyond irresponsible how these parents leave these "adult" children with no workable skills. I do believe women should stay at home with children, if at all possible, though I know more and more in this economy it is not possible. Men lose jobs. Men get sick, whether it is a temporary illness or a long term illness or injury.
When she mentions "Pressure", that is called being a grown up and being held responsible for your own decisions. Yes we all will make mistakes. Here too, I wonder if some girls seeing the changes in this world are wanting to stay home. One can understand the fear and trepidation considering this world, but this is no answer. These movements are not coming out of a vaccum.
The focus is entirely on her father, this is not healthy whatsoever.
Being a stay-at-home daughter helps me have a good, close relationship with my entire family, including my father. Living in the same home as my father allows me to regularly see and learn what things are important to him. I would have missed out on so many opportunities to get to know my father if I did not choose to live under his loving authority!
What about the things that important to her? Part of growing up is having your own values and developing one's own relationship with God. She seems far more invested in SUBMITTING to her father and getting to know him, then she does to obeying God and having a relationship with God. Why is her father the ultimate center of the household?
Sadly she is stuck in error, God does not except this. Just so people know, I have personally known at least three families raising daughters this way. Some got sucked in via the homeschool movement, all support Dominionism, and are part of the church system. Some may see this movement as extreme fringe, but I think the numbers are actually growing higher out there. I am seeing even past church families I used to know starting to adopt things like this which troubles me. I find myself thinking a lot about why such things are being promoted. Remember "biblical femininity" which she brings up in the video is being advanced even through many "mainstream" Dominionist groups.
I did leave a comment to her blog first, sending her links to my earlier articles. She did not post it and I did not hear back. I hope she and others like her in the SAHD movement can come out of the legalism and realize these things they are being told to adhere to are NOT biblical.
Phl 4:3 And I intreat thee also, true yokefellow, help those women which laboured with me in the gospel, with Clement also, and [with] other my fellowlabourers, whose names [are] in the book of life.